Commenter Sew A Word In Edgewise has raised some very good points about my post on Feminine Psychology. I was inspired to write that post by YouTube Video Blogger KellyJones00. I started to respond and ... well, here it is. Please tell me that I haven't gone off the deep end here.
Still, I feel that both feminists and non/anti feminists seem to think that being masculine is the only appropriate way to behave, and I dislike that just as much
Well, this is the crux of the whole issue. It really deserves a full post. The feminist myth is that The Female is undervalued in society while, in actuality, it has always been valued higher than The Male, evidenced by the protections females garner. However, feminism has tried to attack masculinity and “male-dominated” realms and encouraging women to take a more masculine identity, thereby devaluing feminine psychology. On the other hand, The Feminine is considered sacred and, although the prevailing mantra is that men and women are no different, feminists have demanded still need more shielding and advantages for women.
So here is the rub. The feminine identity is one of caring and nurturing. This is vital to society. However, if one allows too much of themselves to take on the feminine identity, it draws away from the ability to use reason and value truth as more of oneself is devoted to being nice. This is not acceptable in politics, science, business and the search for knowledge. So, if one assumes that women will display more feminine traits than men, due to their biology, we can conclude that women will be less prevalent in these pursuits. If one wants to pursue a career these areas, male or female, the person must set aside the feminine traits, at least part of the time, to focus completely on the task at hand. Setting aside the feminine psychology is what, I believe, Kelly Jones is advocating, at the detriment to the nurturing side. This may be suitable for certain individuals or groups, but, it is certainly not acceptable for most people to deny what is inside them. I certainly wouldn’t want to give up some of the less rational parts of my masculinity. On a larger scale, I think it is disastrous for society to try and eliminate this feminine psychology (as it seems Kelly Jones advocates).
Ideally, we would have value and a voice for The Feminine*. The nurturing attitudes of Feminine Psychology must be openly celebrated, while, realizing that to truly understand reality and make serious decisions, it must be curtailed. Everyone should think about this and decide where they reside on the spectrum. Some women will choose to be more masculine and some will choose to be more feminine. Neither should be admonished. However, the consequences should be known.
Any individual can express more masculine or feminine traits as suits their personality and goals. However, the realms where reason and wisdom are essential will invariably be more masculine. It all boils down to the fact that we have two types of people and these traits evolved for certain reason to be more pronounced in one than in the other.
*I believe that it always has had one, but, feminism actually stifled it in a way (by demonizing men) and then, when it failed to go away, absorbed it back into itself causing a sort of bipolar beast.